ADVICES

we like to advise and console friends and family members when they are in trying conditions.....we can squeeze out all positive words or sentences in order to make them feel better or less bad....however the matter is....how many of us can think about the adviCes that we used to tell other people when ourselves are in difficult and uneasy situations....

it is a sure...no one of us will recall the adviCes like "dont give up!!", "be optimistic!!", "be calm", "it will be fine soon".......so.......humans are just like this...they may be calm, steady, stable,composed when they are not the "victims" afflicted by troubles....a good adviser or motivator is indeed not a tough and optimistic person......

actually when people are facing problems i dont like to cheer them up...unless they ask me to do so...i know how it feels like when we are in troubles....simple positive sentences are not that effective in my opinion...i guess what they really need is a silent listener that may can understand their feelings...of course this is not a fact...just oppose me if you all dont agree with this.....

probably...the "adviCes" can play their role if they are not merely positive statements...i do think most people like to listen warm adviCes...i have no example on warm adviCes...maybe u can guess it....so thats all... bye (inspired by sorrow's posts, tq)